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Do We Care?

 I have been amused, like millions of others, by Melani Saunders and her "We Do Not Care Club." If you don't know what that is, you obviously do not follow social media. 

To raise awareness about menopause and women's health issues, Melani developed a series of short videos for TikTok, etc. where she talks to the camera and announces that this is a meeting of the We Do Not Care Club for women going through menopause and perimenopause. She looks, usually, as if she just rolled out of bed or got out of the shower (she is a put-together woman, just not for these videos). "These are today's announcements," she states, and she goes through a list in her spiral notebook and marks them off  with a highlighter. They are quite funny. 

We do not care if our clothes do not match. 

We do not care if we wore the same thing last week. 

We do not care if there is no milk in the frig. You went by the same grocery store we did. 

These are directed at coworkers and family.  

Of course, there are imitators, but they don't quite get it. I saw one woman with her list of announcements for golfers, one of which was "We do not care if it's a long way back to the clubhouse, Bob, use the bathroom, not the trees." However, the position of privilege she spoke from sort of misses the point. 

Melani has brought attention to a real problem, I salute her, and she has hit a nerve. Kudos.

But I have to ask --

What do we care about? 

I am reminded of an old Nooma video by Rob Bell from the early 2000s. Yes, I know Rob Bell is an apostate. But those videos were pretty good, and he had one that changed my life.  "You can't say no until you say yes." As in "You can't say no to the world and sin until you say yes to Christ." 

I firmly believe that. Don't just take away. There has to be something that matters first. 

I do not care about a lot of things either, that used to be so important. I especially don't much care about anyone's opinion of me; I've long since accepted that I can't satisfy anyone. So what? 

The important thing is that I care about my family, God's glory, the church of God all over the world, and real poverty/famine/bad water/wartorn countries like Sudan and Ukraine. 


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