Wise guy (gal) thoughts

As a woman coming to the end of her seventh decade of life, I believe I have earned the right, and the wisdom, to make these observations.

Bathrooms should be designed (and reconfigured) so that there are twice as many stalls/commodes in women's public restrooms. Rarely does this happen.

I've never seen a line outside a man's restroom. I have stood, very uncomfortably, in many of them in many places: stadiums, theaters, airports, stores.

Men do not understand that women must go to the bathroom more often than they and that if they don't, it causes medical problems I don't want to discuss. Some of this needing to go more is due to childbirth. It also takes longer for women to go; there's just more involved.

And periods--don't get me started.

So, these are my questions for those men who want to be trans women: Do you understand this? Do you understand that a woman's life starts in utero, not when she decides at some point to "be a woman? and that it is a lifetime experience? Do you plan to advocate for more bathroom space for women?

Unless you have massive surgery to change your urinary tract and add a uterus and ovaries, you cannot know what it is like to be a woman.

If you insist on using women's bathrooms, you are making it harder on born women. You are doing what men have done for centuries, millenia--taking advantage of women for your own purposes.

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